First a quick update - I am feeling more rested, however, my hormones are very finicky. I am pretty sensitive emotionally and have a lowered capacity to "roll with the punches." I do have more energy and am more efficient at getting the chores done. I look forward to my acupuncture every week.
One of the IVF dilemmas is whether to proceed with a transfer or an extra egg retrieval cycle. In many ways this is a numbers game. Number of embryos, number of dollars invested, and number of days you want to wait.
Since the 2 rounds (IVF Cycles for egg retrievals) last year and a miscarriage, I have looked at my IVF journey differently. It is less about being pregnant already and more about planning for a family. The short answer: not every embryo becomes a baby. Even when the couple does everything right.
In my situation, 6+ embryos would be the optimal number for at least 2 children. My IVF experience suggests that with a healthy embryo I can get pregnant but retrieving enough eggs for healthy embryos has been the tough part.
If enough embryos are not frozen and stored then a woman would have to stop breast feeding at 6 months and repeat the IVF Cycle for an egg retrieval...with a 6 month old. At that point the hormone balance is different and I my eggs would be nearly 18 months older.
The preparation for a transfer is approximately a 5 week process. My body has to recover from the egg retrieval (7-14 days) Then I will start on estrogen 3 times per day for at least 3 weeks. Then progesterone shots start the week before the egg retrieval. Progresterone shots continue through the 10th week of pregnancy. At the time of transfer it is like the implantation and hatching during a naturally occuring pregnancy. I will have to wait 10-14 days to get a blood hcg test. This matches the timeline of a woman missing her first period and being 4 weeks pregnant.
In an IVF journey there are so many places things can take more time or add extra challenges. Places where a couple makes the best decision for them at the time and then receives additional information later. It is important to know that needing ART (Assisted Reproductive Technologies) is not a failure of either partner. It takes both, being healthy and wanting to experience parenthood, plus a helping of patience to walk the IVF journey and choose to be a parent.