Tough questions arise while going through IVF. As I have shared there is an emotional component as well as the physical. There is a lot of excitement and also disappointment. Sometimes I have felt like sharing and others I have not. After my 3rd cycle I was feeling particularly upset and disappointed. I told my husband all the things I hope people stop saying to me. Fortunately, he is wise and aware. After some emotionally charged banter I arrived here. Injecting yourself with hormones to have your baby creates this extra filter through which you see and hear the world.
Example: When not on hormones- S: What's for supper? Me: Tonight is spaghetti because I forget to get asparagus to go with the salmon.
When on hormones- S: What's for supper? Me: If you helped me you would know. And since no one else goes to the store it's stupid spaghetti.
This may or may not have happened. My point in sharing it is that a woman going through IVF is very sensitive. If you get a response you didn't expect it's probably the hormone filter. And to women going through IVF - the people that ask you questions ask because they care and support you. I remember how little I knew about IVF when a friend went through it, now that I am in it I know much more.
So baby news? Not yet. Where I am in the process is egg retrieval. I have two cycles left. Each cycle is about 4-6 weeks long and varies depending on my bodies response to the hormones. Sometimes there is a full "reset" menstrual cycle in between. During this phase the goal is to collect as many healthy eggs to fertilize as possible and then store the embryos. My doctor offered for me to transfer the one embryo we have this month. If I did that and had a healthy baby, we would not have any embryos for additional children. Based on my age and desire for more than one child, we will go for more embryos.
Speaking of transfers - We will do FET - frozen embryo transfer. Some clinics will do a fresh transfer depending on the couple's risk factors. At the time of a transfer the woman is approximately 2 weeks pregnant. There is still a nearly two week wait period before the blood test for HCG. A positive level for HCG happens at about 4 weeks pregnant. This would be about when a woman with a natural pregnancy misses her first period.
Adding together the 2 cycles I have left and the time to get hormones shifted to transfer phase, I won't have a chance of pregnancy until July. Even though I am in fertility treatments and need to behave as if I am pregnant a baby announcement is still a few months away. This part of the waiting game isn't fun, but will be worth it!
Feel free to comment questions or text or email them to me. When asked in real time I don't know how detailed an answer to provide or the best way to communicate where I am in my journey. This platform allow me to dive deeper into the answers and my journey.